In my last blog article, I talk about knowing what your needs and feelings are in order to fulfill those instead of acting on a quick fix (after hours of stress or ignoring your needs). However, this can be difficult if you don't know how to put them into words.
So, I've created a list of needs, and also am including links to the Nonviolent Communication website, that includes very thorough lists of feelings and needs (no need to reinvent the wheel!).
Some of these needs might overlap with other needs at the same time, or they might cover an underlying need (e.g. control might be what you think you need, while safety is what you really need).
A Need For:
Love
Belonging
Acceptance
Connection
Comfort
Respect
Inspiration
Creativity
Harmony
Wholeness
Completion
Health/Exercise
Home
Physical well-being: food/water/shelter/bathing/sleep
Balance
Order
Amusement
To be seen/known
Meaning
Solace
Activity
Calm
Peace
Joy
Accomplishment
For someone to be proud of you
Healing
Space/Autonomy
Learning
Adventure
Excitement
Control
Hope
Safety
Nonviolent Communication list: https://www.cnvc.org/Training/needs-inventory
http://www.cnvc.org/Training/feelings-inventory
Okay, want to try something?
Choose three needs that stand out to you.
Close your eyes.
Take a deep breath, slowly, in and out.
Now, ask yourself, "Do I have a need for____________?"
Notice how it feels to ask yourself what you're needing. See what arises.
Think of one way to fulfill each need.
See how your answers change, based on the day. :)
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Dr. Heather Schwartz is a licensed psychologist in Portland, OR who delights in working with warm and expressive people seeking full-self wellness.
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